When you are angry you are told to watch it because anger only needs a D and it becomes a danger. Many people have a problem when it comes to anger management but this does not mean that they cannot do it. All it takes is a choice and committing oneself to it. It might seem a god idea to vent off your anger and get it off your chest but actually when you are not in control, you are out of control.
Out-of-control anger hurts your physical health. Constantly operating at high levels of stress and tension is bad for your health. Chronic anger makes you more susceptible to heart disease, diabetes, high cholesterol levels, a weakened immune system, insomnia, and high blood pressure.
Out-of-control anger hurts your mental health. Chronic anger consumes huge amounts of mental energy and clouds your thinking, making it harder to concentrate, see the bigger picture, and enjoy life. It can also lead to stress, depression, and other mental health problems.
Out-of-control anger hurts your career. Constructive criticism, creative differences, and heated debate can be healthy. But lashing out only alienates your colleagues, supervisors, or clients and erodes their respect. What’s more, a bad reputation can follow you wherever you go, making it harder and harder to get ahead.
Prevention has always been better than cure. It is better to identify your weakness and deal with them early enough before it becomes a disaster. You need to do self-examination about yourself to determine if your anger is almost boiling over.
Signs that may prove you have an anger problem:
1. Can’t take criticism: People with an anger problem are ones who cannot listen to constructive criticism. They are quick to get defensive and fire back at the person trying to help them.
2. Always have to win an argument: People who are unable to control their anger have to have the last word, they won’t back down. The argument is less about the actual source of the conflict and more about dominating the argument.
3. Very short fuse: Angry people have a very short emotional shelf-life, meaning, their threshold for patience is very thin and will often explode at the drop of a hat. Being unable to control your outburst indicates you may have an anger problem.
That beast in you needs to be tamed and that can be done in several ways. What you don’t feed soon starves to death. When someone says something that irritates you, hold your tongue and think before you respond. Express your anger when you are calm and composed. You should also workout to get rid of that extra tension.
1. Think before you speak
In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to say something you’ll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
2. Once you’re calm, express your anger
As soon as you’re thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.
3. Get some exercise
Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.